So tired of people insisting that I have unconditional access to womanhood and lesbianism by virtue of having been assigned female at birth and so i could never ever understand being excluded. Best of luck, anon <3 feel free 2 ask for advice btw!! i dont mind it at all m. Just know that you aren’t being sensitive or whiny, your feelings are justified & you have a whole community of people who understand and support you! Sometimes there isn’t much you can do besides keep pushing forward until you can build a better life for yourself, but it is worth it. I hope she does listen to you I’ve been in very similar situations in school & I know it can be really aggravating when you have to deal with subtle misgendering and not be able to do much about it. If both of you talk to her about it she’ll probably be more likely to listen, even if she doesn’t fully respect your dysphoria. I’d ask your nonbinary friend to help explain to her why it makes you uncomfortable, as it can be really comforting to have another trans person to back you up when confronting cis people about stuff like this. I don’t think it’s sensitive at all, it’s similar to how some people are uncomfortable with people saying “dudes” or “girls” in a general sense. If she’s pretty accepting about your nonbinary friend being trans, you could try explaining to her why you are uncomfortable with her saying “ladies first”.

Idk, feel free to delete this if you don't know how to help, i totally get it!! i just figured asking an older trans person abt this couldn't hurt she's already made comments about me being a lesbian even though i'm like. i mean i know she's not directing it at me, but it still feels kinda shitty to be included in that, y'know? but idk how to ask her to stop, since i live in a rlly conservative area and if i try to explain dysphoria to her she'll probably just think i'm being sensitive.

but like, it feels kinda shitty since i'm (binary trans guy) the one who sits down first, and. and every day, their friend (a cis girl) will say 'ladies first' as a way to make fun of them (an amab nonbinary person) since they get in their seat before her. I'm in highschool, and i have a theatre class, and i sit at the third seat in a row, next to my friend and with their friend next to them. Feel free to delete this if you don't give advice or don't feel like answering!! i just don't know any other transmasc ppl that i can talk to about this :,)

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